I am having troubles with my reflection part of assignment.. help please

[mum2mum]

hi guys i am having a lot of trouble with the reflection part of my communication assignment for childbirth international doula course... i have basically followed the examples but have changed it around to suit my situations of cause any one tell me if im on the right tract or what i could do better.. or not put there .. what i could maybe add ANYTHING PLEASE IM STUCK,

here goes

The reflection process has enhanced my understanding of my thoughts and feelings of before, during and after the birth -in thinking about what experiences or circumstances contributed to me having these thoughts and feelings. The experience and the reflection has also given my family unit a deeper bond. With my husband i have also reflected apon how it impacted him in a big way and how that in turn made me feel certain things. I have also used this reflection process to feel the bond that this has created from myself to my baby how what i was thinking and feeling in relation to his arrival and when he arrived how much deeper my love was for him than i actually ever considered. So this exersise of reflection has brought some furthur thoughts to my attention which i had never really thought of untill doing this assignment.

In relation to how reflection will change the way i work as a doula this has been a very tough question that i have had to think over since doing the assignment but as having done that now i have now been enlightened to the fact that I wanted to become a doula as i had a bad birth experience and i wanted to be the protector for other woman so they didnt have to have the experience i had but since this reflection i have begun to relize that i am a contribution for them to have the birth that they wish for but ultimitly it is the parents choices of what they make and to what extent they are willing to advocate for themselves as to what they want to happen or not to happen to them- I am not the control remote to stop or pause there experiences i am there to enhance the experience that they wish to have..

Since reflecting on how my birth process made me feel and how it will change the way i care for my clients i have thought about what i give to my clients and how i am helping to enhance their skills in communication so they can be an advocate and express to professionals how they are feeling and what they want. Since reveiwing my services to my clients, i am relizing that i am in need of teaching them more skills, in order for them to have effective communication and to be able to have that voice and to be heard.

not sure what eles to do or if this sounds ok or weird people please be honest thanks..

[mum2mum]

please forget all spelling mistakes i am to fix all that yet hahah

[Acacia]

K, you need to actually go through the whole reflection process yourself and not just give a synopsis of what reflection is and means to you. You need to take one of your own births or something that you have had trouble in dealing with and go through each of the steps. Would you like me to e-mail mine to you so you can take a look and get an idea? pm me with your e-mail if you think it would be helpful!

[Acacia]

wait lol..I think I am still tired...you are specifically asking about one section of the assignment! Let me go back and see what it was to include then come back an re-read it! It has been awhile since I have done mine.

[Acacia]

Are you doing the section about what you learned or the application?

[mum2mum]

hey can you pm me your email and ill send you through what i have done..

[AMotz]

Make sure that you go through the reflection process with each "item" that you brought up in the sections before, and don't introduce any "new" issues or thoughts.

It seems a little jumbled to me and hard to read, but that may just be because it is a rough draft. I think you should separate your thoughts more and make them more precise to your situation.

You're on the right path!

[AMotz]

On another note. I can honestly say that the "Apply" (which I think is the section you mean) section was the HARDEST for me. Here is mine, if you'd like another example to go through. PM me if you want some more info.

Quote:

Apply Reflection has helped me to make sense of some of the feelings that I have experienced after the birth of my daughter. I can now see that I am responsible for the choices that I make and in turn I am responsible for my birth experience. I cannot continue to place blame where there should be none. This has really helped me to heal from some of the lingering animosity I was feeling. It has also helped me have a better respect for my husband and his feelings. I see him in a new light. I try to take his feelings into account, especially when we have disagreements. I make every effort to reflect on his side of things, as well as my own, instead of rushing to argue. He is a loving man who wants only the best for me and my marriage is better for it. This assignment has also impacted other aspects of my life. I am now using reflection when interacting with other people with regard to childbirth and pregnancy. I do not rush to judge or justify actions or beliefs. I listen and learn from someone else’s perspective much more thoroughly now. I respond much more effectively. This will be an ongoing learning process for me as I am always inclined to give my take on things. In terms of my work as a doula, I have accepted the reality that each individual is responsible for their own choices. As a doula, I have a responsibility to my client and I must be careful not to try to influence or direct another’s birth experience. I should, instead, be focusing on helping them to seek and use the information they have found to their benefit, whatever that may be. I mustn’t rush to empower women who are not yet ready to be empowered. As a whole, the process of using reflection has been very helpful to me. I have really begun to think about why I feel the way I do and how it affects me, my relationships with other people and their relationship with me, instead of just identifying what I am feeling at the time.

[mum2mum]

thanks guys