Today my client is being induced. My sitter isn't available from 8-11am so I was just going to call my husband to come home if she started pit when my sitter was unavailable. But I was up late on the phone with her last night and couldn't get to sleep till about 1am. So she calls at 6:30 to tell me she is headed over to L&D.
I realize that I'm still super tired and need rest so I decide to ask my husband if he'd just stay home so I can sleep instead of getting up with the kids.
He came back home and my father in law saw him and asked why he was home. My dh said because I was going to the hospital. Then my FIL said. "Oh No! You can't do that! I mean, you are staying home from work so she can have a hobby!"
OH MY GOODNESS DO I WANT TO HURT THAT MAN RIGHT NOW.
I can not WAIT till we are out of here!
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I know what you are feeling because I have had some "comments" too. WE know what we do and the difference we make for our mamas and daddys so don't let him bother you.
For whats it's worth my MIL had a great job before she recently retired and probably made about $60K per year. I think my FIL always treated her job like a hobby, too. Some men (especially from older generations) will never see value in the work women do. When you couple that with the fact that the work we do is by women FOR women thats a double whammy.
Cheryl.. LMAO .. spit in his food.. I needed that smile thanks lol.
When our sitter got home she called and so my dh ended up going to work late instead of taking the day off, and on his way out his dad told him that an unplanned day off will keep him from getting a raise and that he shouldn't expect a raise anytime soon because of today. (my husband has never taken a day off at this job.. planned or unplanned).
He just gets on my last nerve.
the thought that he may think of all women working as being a hobby really bothers me because his wife is the only one working right now. He's on social security and trying to get disability for degenerative arthritis (dr. wont sign papers because he thinks the problem is because FIL is lazy and doesn't excercise) If he views women working as a hobby, i wonder how he feels about her working. She sometimes works 18 hour days!
We just really need to move. That's all. Actually, we should have just stayed in ME.
UGH.
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Sorr he;s being a jerk. At least your dh is supportive of you.
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Don't give him the power to bother you! all goes well with your client, and you find a better living space soon.
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Is his dad his boss? If not, how can he say whether he will or will not get a raise.
How does he know whether or not your dh would get a raise? Frankly, none of this is his business in any way, shape, or form. I wouldn't listen to him and go on about your own family's business. It sounds like your dh is supportive of you, but I would also hope that he'd tell his dad to lay off and mind his own business on things that do not involve him.
Is his dad his boss? If not, how can he say whether he will or will not get a raise.
I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you for a new home. I live with my elderly (also very moochy) father, for the sole purpose of getting him recooperated after his many surgeries this year. He's also the way you describe your FIL. I work part time at a hospital, am working on doula certification, and am in nursing school... all of these are more or less "hobbies" for him, too. for crotchety old men.
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Lisa M CLD (CBI)
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I know what you are feeling because I have had some "comments" too. 
WE know what we do and the difference we make for our mamas and daddys so don't let him bother you.
all goes well with your client, and you find a better living space soon. 
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How does he know whether or not your dh would get a raise? Frankly, none of this is his business in any way, shape, or form. 
for crotchety old men.
