induction

jesscardona · 08-13-2006, 04:20 PM

Okay, what do y'all think about a mom having an induction done so that her husband can be present at the birth?

MyDoulaStacia · 08-13-2006, 04:27 PM

Being a military wife I can understand it for deployment issues.
However most people don't have an issue where the dad "can't" rearange his schedule and be there.
With an induction she would have to be truly educated in all that she is setting herself up for. Tell her that she could be facing a c-section due to the decision. If she still wants to go ahead with it then it's obviously something important enough to her.

DL · 08-13-2006, 05:07 PM

Being a former military wife (dh's a civilian now), I totally agree with Stacia's answers. I'd continue to educate on benefits and risks just like I would for any other mom. I would be totally accepting of her educated decisions. Her birth, her baby.

doula Michele · 08-13-2006, 05:12 PM

yes, i had a mom whose husband was home for 2 weeks from Afganistan for the birth of their baby... it would have been a shame for him to go back without actually getting to see his new baby.
He wouldn't be home again, until baby was 6 months old!
I would also have the induction myself, if that was the case..section risk or not.
Michele

AussieDoula · 08-13-2006, 05:36 PM

As long as she understands that being induced is in no way indicative of whether she will actually go into labour and is aware of all the risks, then I would feel good about her making an educated decision.

Is this a theoretical, or do you have a mama (we're all guessing military lol) planning an induction so her partner will hopefully be at the birth?

Kim Trower · 08-13-2006, 08:35 PM

For a client...absolutely go over all the pros/cons so that she can make the decision for her.
For myself...I wouldn't do it and my dh wouldn't ask me to. We both believe birth should happen naturally and when you mess with that you have more risks. I would be very sad if my dh could not witness the birth of his children but WE would both be traumatized if anything happened to me and/or the child during the process where we took matters into our own hands. That is just my personal choice though..not one I would put on a client. I would respect her decision and the reasons she made it.

RosyDoula · 08-14-2006, 11:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Kim Trower

For a client...absolutely go over all the pros/cons so that she can make the decision for her.
For myself...I wouldn't do it and my dh wouldn't ask me to. We both believe birth should happen naturally and when you mess with that you have more risks. I would be very sad if my dh could not witness the birth of his children but WE would both be traumatized if anything happened to me and/or the child during the process where we took matters into our own hands. That is just my personal choice though..not one I would put on a client. I would respect her decision and the reasons she made it.

I agree completely. I don't personally think its worth it to put your child and yourself at potential risk. Great if dad can see his baby born, but what about if you have surgery or complications that you have to deal with on your own for 6 months? The birth isnt as important as dad being there for his child. Just my two cents.

earthgirl · 08-16-2006, 02:09 PM

I had a client schedule an induction so her husband could be there before he was deployed for a year. They were informed of all risks, but miraculously she went into labor a week early on her own and he was able to be there!

jesscardona · 08-16-2006, 02:16 PM

this mom has dilated 1cm, she told me that the doctor told her her cervix is still very thick, I told her all about induction the risks, everything to it...
she really doesnt want to, she wants a natural birth BUT wants her husband to be here, so the doctor told her that next week if her cervix is favorable, then they'll recommend an induction, if not favorable he won't recommend one.

Ceci · 08-17-2006, 10:27 PM

I had a mom a few months back where dad was home for only 2 weeks, he worked with the state dept and was only allowed home for 2 weeks, they chose an induction and after pushing for 2 hours she asked the OB for a c-section....Dad got to see the baby but mom was virtually alone while recovering from a c-section.....This is my only experience with this situation.

Cecilia