I finally feel that I can debrief and look for suggestions after attending a birth that I found to be a pretty bad experience for me as a doula. Please don't quote my text as I plan on deleting it after receiving some feedback.

It was my first homebirth and I was SO excited when my client decided to switch. When the big day came, mom requested my presence very early because she started getting anxious. The midwife arrived about 3 hours after me. By the time I got there, dad was filling up the pool.
Things were going great for mom. She was doing beautifully. Things went great between me and the midwife until she stated that the pool wasn't aired enough and that there wasn't enough water in it. I never in my life touched a birth pool before, nor do I know how to set it up or deflate it. It seemed like the midwife expected me to do it (she knew this was my first HB). Few minutes later, MW and the assistant started working on the pool while I was with mom. We were nearby and I heard someone making a negative comment about my work. Uhm really?! Ok, I let it go and continued working with mom. The midwife came to check in on mom and also came to me to show me how the hip-press is done correctly. She later told me that she didn't realize it was me and thought I was the mom (REALLY? I'm in my 20s, mom's mom in her late 40. I've done hip-presses for hours and hours.).
First stage of labor passed. Mom started bearing down but wasn't progressing. Midwife kept checking baby's heart tones and baby had great decels during contractions. She finally decided, it would be best to get mom out of the water. Baby's HR kept disappearing during contractions and baby was recovering VERY slowly. She tried different positions and wasn't able to get babies HR at at all during or after contractions for several minutes. All I thought at this point was: "OMG this is it!!!!". It was time to call 911. I did my best to stay calm and not to show mom that I was scared to death for her and her baby. Paramedics arrived and I stayed out of the way so that they could do their job. I quickly gathered all my stuff because I knew that I would follow mom. While we waited on the ambulance, the assistant softly asked the MW if she would go to the hospital. Midwife whispered back: "Yes, I don't trust her....(didn't hear the rest)." and moved her head towards me. I thought I didn't hear right but just chose to believe that I didn't hear right. She asked the paramedics if she could monitor mom on the ambulance. MW and I walked out together and I stated that this was a scary situation and that I was happy that she was there. She just gave me a grin and said: "It happens."
In the hospital things were busy. We (MW and I) were asked to stand away and only dad was allowed by mom's side. Nurses were great and baby was finally born vaginally (Never before was I so happy for medical interventions and nurses). Dad asked me questions and before I even had a chance to answer, the midwife took over to answer the questions. We then were asked to wait in the waiting room until mom got settled.
When the MW asked if I wanted to join her and the assistant in the cafeteria, I took the opportunity. We (more the MW and assistant) briefly talked about what happened and how mom was welcomed by the staff in the hospital (which was great). The whole time, I tried connect with them. I finally asked what advice they could give me for my next homebirth. The MW just smirked and asked the assistant what advice they could give me (assistant had some helpful advice which I took with me). I also said that I never went though something this scary with any of my clients before and I'm only saying that because I know they have been new in their jobs and there was a first time for them as well. We were getting ready to leave when I stepped to the side to clean off my tray. I was wondering what would happen next. I know they were "talking" by the looks on their faces and a woman who was nearby kept looking in my direction.
We went back to the waiting room. I decided to close my eyes because I haven't slept close to 40 hours at that point. I dozed off when the assistant touched my leg and handed me her business card. She said she really doesn't like "the talk" going on in the birth pro community and that we all should be supporting each other. She said that if I ever needed any advice or an open ear, I could always call her. I told her that I agreed with her about "the talk" and thanked her. She then gave me a hug and they took off. MW completely ignored me when she was leaving.

I finally got to see mom and she was tired but happy. We didn't get a chance to talk more this day. The whole family was there so I found it appropriate to leave and get it touch with her next day. As soon as I left the hospital, tears just started coming down my face. Never before was I in a situation where I was this scared that my client would lose her baby and never before was I treated with such disrespect. Not even in the hospitals.

I honestly have no idea what happened and what caused the MW and her assistant to treat me in such way. I thought maybe I did something they found inappropriate? To this day, I don't know. I asked mom for an evaluation as I do it with all my clients and she's greatly satisfied with her birth experience and the support she received from me. Did any of you experience anything like this before? Any words of wisdom?

Oh honey. Get some sleep. Get some GOOD nutrition in you. Get some more sleep. Then let yourself critique yourself. YOU didn't do anything wrong at all. You were in a new environment AND in a scary situation. You can not help it if this midwife acted unprofessionally. Some midwives simply do not like doulas just as some people don't like other people. The fact that the assistant gave you her card and said "let's talk" is a hint that she probably realizes that this midwife is not very doula friendly or perhaps she had other things going on that was making her snarky. I know transfers can be extremely hard on some midwives but she was not very friendly before that even. Not you, not your fault. Your client was happy with you and that is what matters most.

I am sorry! That is really hard! I know some midwives do not see the use in doulas, do not see that they are adequately trained or something. I have gotten some really funny vibes from a few and I actually have more training than just as a doula, but I have been working on learning that some people just form an opinion about you, it is hard not to take it personally, but it is part of the job! Good for you for not letting it interfere with your work as a doula, your client was happy!