I'm trying to figure out how to keep personal details to a minimum here, since the details are what my thread is about! My fifth birth was today, a single teen mom with the support of her mom and the baby's father. I didn't know what the relationship was between my client and the father, if they were dating or not, and didn't feel comfortable asking. While she was in labor, he was very supportive and it seemed to me like they were "together." (I didn't say anything or imply anything to them, just did my job.)
Before she was about to push, she started to lose it- she started hyperventilating, crying, and totally lost control. She asked to speak to me alone so her mom and the dad left the room. As soon as they were gone she squeaked out, "He has a girlfriend!" and I realized what was going on. Now, I've had three babies of my own and I know what sort of crazy hormones are going through your body during labor and delivery. Here was this poor little girl, trying to figure out where she stands with this dad, because he's in her face comforting her, holding her hand, and saying he loves her, but clearly my client was confused, mad, frustrated, sad, and torn about all of this.
I got her focused, and she did a wonderful job during pushing. I was pretty much her only support though. I've not attended a birth with this dynamic though, it definitely left me wondering how many single moms go through this- single by choice or single because they're husband is in the military or gone for some reason.
Anyways, just thinking a lot about this tonight. My client has wonderfully supportive parents but I just ache for her having to deal with the drama of the baby's dad.